What is GHB & GBL?
GHB: Gamma Hydroxybutyrate & GBL is Gamma Butyrolactone. Both are central nervous system depressants, meaning they slow your heartrate and breathing. (See our other article for more details about GHB also!)
- GHB is occasionally prescribed for patients struggling with narcolepsy; under the brand name of Xyrem.
- GBL is a precursor to GHB, meaning when GBL is consumed it is turned into GHB in the body, effectively making the substances very similar when consumed. GBL is a chemical solvent used in industries to produce other chemicals.
- GHB is commonly bought and sold in vials and bottles, and is made by mixing GBL with sodium hydroxide, or potassium hydroxide.
- GHB is consumed orally, often times mixed in a soft drink.
- Both GHB and GBL are clear, oily liquids.
- GHB tastes slightly salty and bitter, and is typically odorless or has a mild salty odor, while GBL has a very strong chemical scent & taste.
GHB chemical structure
Effects may include:
- Euphoria, nausea, blacking out or ‘G-ing out’, increased sex drive, dizziness, disinhibition, altered mood, clumsiness, altered perception of time, sleepiness, sweating, memory loss, auditory and visual hallucinations and confusion. GHB takes about 20-60 minutes to kick in, and lasts up to 2.5 hours, with after effects lasting up to 4 hours.
As many of you know through every day life, not to mention various media scandals, and the #metoo campaign, “no means no.” To some, this movement could come off as new wave feminism that puts very confusing restrictions towards people. In reality, consent is everywhere. Whether it’s for sex, physical contact, or even to take a picture. This brings us to the big question…
What is consent?
Consent is an active agreement for something to happen (sexual or otherwise) or to do something between two or more people. It is an ongoing process that often needs a little added reassurance to guarantee comfortability towards everyone. But what does consent look like? Making sure you ask to do something whenever necessary to ensure people’s comfortability, safety, and needs. That doesn’t mean that you have to ask every 5 minutes! Consent can come through various ways throughout your normal day-to-day life through things like:
- Physical interaction such as hugging, high fives, shoulder taps, handshakes, etc.
- Bringing people over to private personal spaces
- Sharing personal information and/or things
- Taking photos
- Posting online
- Forming new relationships
- Privacy terms on social media
Why consent is important
Simple; it’s just being a decent human being. It’s important to be able to respect one another and especially to respect each other’s boundaries, whether the person is a stranger, a really close friend, or your partner. Besides, you don’t want to end up in a problematic situation simply because you didn’t want to ask! We are all a part of creating a community where people can feel safe and included without fear of harassment, shame, exclusion, and judgement.
How to ask for consent
Consent doesn’t have to be awkward or forward. It can be fun and sexy too! Here are a few examples of asking for consent in casual conversations:
- “Do you like that?”
- “Do you want me to____?”
- “Is it okay if I____?”
Some ways you can ask for consent from your partner or someone you’ve already been talking to about sexy times :
(do NOT use these for strangers – they are kind of harassy!)
- “Should I get a condom?”
- “Let’s get these clothes off ;3”
- Making suggestive humping movements and going “eehhh??” ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
It’s super important to be able to accept a “no” in response to any of these, and even thank the person for having good boundaries!
Valentine’s Day can be a time for lovers, pals or new experiences – whatever makes your heart flutter, make sure to think about consent.
Consent isn’t just for sexy times! You can give/get consent for hugs, cuddles, to tell someone’s story, to buy a cool person a drink or flirt. Consent means that folks know the whole picture of what’s going on and they’re stoked about it. Talking about consent can seem scary at first, but it’s essential for everyone to understand what consent is, and is not.
Disclaimer: In this post we will talk about sexy times with partners, fuck buddies, playmates and other folks, but feel free to use whatever language feels right for you. Continue reading